Dating after divorce in your 20s

15 May

The fact that my peers were meeting people and getting engaged for the first time made me feel all the more alone, I was the odd one out. It's a chance to see whether you get on with someone, to enjoy an evening together and think about whether you might meet them again.

So, if I had to do it all over again, what advice would I give myself? It's not a commitment to embark on a new life together.

We can become overwhelmed with panic about the future when all we should consider is what's happening right now.

So relax, enjoy and try not to think too far ahead -- you'll just drive yourself crazy.

Clearly this man wasn't right for me and his delightful comments helped me to realize that early on.

Thinking back to our younger days, the thought of being divorced in our 20s simply didn't even seem like an option.

What would my romantic interests think about me being divorced in my early twenties? Surely, regardless of what positives there may be to dating me, there would also be the ever-nagging, “But he was divorced at 23, classic commitment issues,” “He already broke vows to one person,” “My first wedding would be more special to me than his second wedding to him,” and so on and so forth. Since then, I’ve been able to actually experience dating as a divorcee beyond just my fearful predictions.

For this reason, I wanted to share some of my experiences from dating in the last few years for anyone who is divorced, getting divorced, or is dating someone divorced. Many of the people I’ve dated have been really understanding.

We didn't go into marriage thinking it would end up this way, but a couple of years down the line, and it seems like many of us are staring into the face of separation, lawyering up and gearing down for a life back in Singletown.

But getting divorced in your 20s can actually be the best thing that ever happened to you.